Arrange support if you are a carer
Caring under strain carries a real health cost, so shared load and planned breaks are not a luxury.
The number, drawn
Why it matters
Care responsibilities quietly crowd out your own health and social contact. In a prospective cohort of older spouses, those providing care and reporting strain had 63% higher mortality over four years than non carers. NICE recommends tailored emotional support, practical training and regular conversations about taking breaks. What helps depends on your situation, and no specific percentage reduction in carer distress is established.
How to do it
- Tell your health or social care team that you provide unpaid care.
- Ask for a review of your own support needs and what practical help exists.
- Arrange reliable cover for a break, and agree a backup plan for when it falls through.
- Consider a carer group or counselling if you feel isolated or overwhelmed.
If caring is affecting your own mental or physical health, see your own clinician as well as the team supporting the person you care for.
Do it
Pick the time you have. Anything beats nothing.
Start with the time you have
1 minute
Name one care task you need help with and one effect on your own health, ready to tell your health or social care team.
5 minutes
Contact your local carer-support or social-care service to ask for a review of your needs and available breaks.
15 minutes
List the care tasks a substitute would need to cover, who might help and what should happen if they cannot attend.
30 minutes
Prepare a handover with a willing helper or service: discuss care needs, contacts and a backup before confirming a break.
A plan
Arrange a break with dependable cover
- Tell your health or social care team you are an unpaid carer and ask about support and costs.
- Agree suitable cover, a handover and a backup with the person you care for and those helping.
- Try a manageable break once cover is confirmed, then review what needs adjusting for the next one.
In real life
- Tell your own clinician that you provide unpaid care and are missing your own appointments.
- Ask a reliable person or respite service to cover a short break, with the care needs agreed beforehand.
Watch out for
- Common mistakeLeaving before cover is confirmed can put the person you care for at risk: agree a handover and backup first.
- Common mistakeThinking you must manage alone can hide your needs: request a review of your own support as well as theirs.
Trusted guides
Check usSources
- Evidence grade
- B Consistent large cohort studies, with some trial evidence.
- Basis
- Prospective cohort of 819 older spouses over 4 years, plus NICE NG150 consensus recommendations
- The number
- Older carers reporting strain had 63% higher mortality over four years (JAMA, via PubMed, 1999)
- Outcome
- mortality over four years, observational association
- Comparison
- Older spousal carers reporting strain vs non-carers
- Tier 2 studyCaregiving as a risk factor for mortality: the Caregiver Health Effects StudyJAMA, via PubMed, 1999
- Tier 1 guidelineSupporting adult carers, NG150NICE, 2020
- Tier 1 guidelineCarers' breaks and respite careNHS, 2026
General health information, not a diagnosis or an individual treatment plan. Personalization changes the order of suggestions; it does not assess your medical risks. Follow the cautions and consult a qualified clinician when needed.